Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts

Friday, September 13, 2013

Our Ideal Daily Schedule

The best piece of advice my mom ever gave me about parenting was to make a schedule for William and to stick to it.

At first I was hesitant to do this. I didn't want to give my mom the satisfaction of being right... but she always is :) Love you mom. When William wasn't on a schedule it was terrible 2's all day long (even before he was even 2).

Now that he is on a schedule, he is in a better mood, and I can get so much more done around the house and in general. So here is how it goes (in an ideal perfect situtation):

8-9 a.m. - William wakes up and we go straight to the bathroom to potty and brush teeth. Then we get breakfast.

9-11 a.m. - William has his TV time while I blog and respond to emails. William is currently loving The Tigger Movie and Jake and the Neverland Pirates. I have brainwashed him to love Disney. He loves Disney all on his own :) Sometimes this is when we will go for our walk at the park and then play on the play ground.

11 a.m.-1 p.m. - Playtime. This is when we turn off the TV and listen to music while playing with Williams toy or doing arts and crafts. William has recently fallen in love with coloring. Lunch time also falls in this time frame.

1 p.m.-2 or 3 p.m. - Nap time for William & sewing or exercise time for me. He'll nap anywhere from 30 minutes to 2 hours depending on how busy our morning was.

3-4 p.m. - Afternoon TV time while I do chores and get ready to cook dinner. If I have to run errands this is when I will normally do it because he's in a good mood from nap time.

5 p.m.-6 p.m. - William eats dinner while I am cooking dinner for Jeff and I.

7 p.m.-8 p.m. - Bathtime after dinner and bed time at 8. He his so great at going to bed. He asks for kisses from Jeff and I and then says good night when we shut his bedroom door.

After he goes to bed I have the evening to work on the computer or do sewing.

This is an ideal perfect day with Williams schedule, so it's not always like this but the things that stay consistant no matter what are his nap time and bed time. Nap time is always at 1pm and bedtime is always at 8pm.

Occasionally he will wake up in the evening, but it is normally because he needs to use the bathroom. He'll even tell me "go pee-pee then go back to bed" he's such a big boy :)

Friday, July 12, 2013

What Being a Mom Means to Me

Summer is a very active time. I have friends who are going on amazing adventures and travels all over the world. Thanks to Facebook and Instagram, I can keep up with these friends and their travels and in the back of my mind I envy them. Now before you give me the worst mom of the year award let me explain.

William was a unexpected surprise. Anyone close to us can tell you that. Jeffrey and I had not been together very long before discovering that we were going to be having a baby. It was shocking, but thanks to the amazing support we were given from our families we made it work. Jeff and I both graduated from college, we have our own place, and we are finally supporting ourselves. I can't even begin to thank my parents and his parents for the financial support we were given.

Now that William is about to be 2, I tend to look back and think about how different things would have been if we didn't have him. I could have gone back to work at Disney, backpacked across Europe, gone to graduate school , and the list goes on and on. And you know how that makes me feel... sad. Not because I wish I could have done those things. Not at all actually. I feel sad because I wouldn't trade anything to not have William.

I was talking to a friend (who also had an unplanned little one) who asked me if I missed being spontaneous and getting to go out and do fun things. She said, so many of her friends don't have kids and they get to go out all the time while she is stuck at home. She's a wonderful working mom and I love her and her family to pieces, and I was kinda surprised to hear this from her.

It's true that it is difficult to be spontaneous when you have a little one. Outings require more planning and equipment than before when you could just get up and go. But it's not impossible.To me nothing is more spontaneous and fun than being a mom. I'll take a spontaneous dance party with William in the living room over a spontaneous night out partying any day of the week.

Being a mom is who I am now, and I wouldn't trade that for all the spontaneity in the world. I love William, I love Jeffrey, and I love the family we have together. I can't wait until we add more little ones to our crazy bunch.


Tuesday, June 18, 2013

The Terrible Twos Tuesday

Alliteration aside, the terrible twos are upon us and it is definitely an adventure to say the least. There are days when William's mood is amazing. He's sweet and cuddly and super adorable. Then there are the days when he is none of those things, and is crabby, irritable, and a royal pain in the butt. And when he is crabby and irritable you best believe mommy and daddy are crabby and irritable.

Not a happy camper.
We joke that his Hilary is showing when he is throwing a temper tantrum because I cried and had tantrums ALL the time when I was a baby (and well into my teens). In third grade I didn't want to go to school, so I chased my moms car down the block after she dropped me off. Definitely not my proudest moment, especially since everyone in my family picks on me to this day about it!

All of this temper tantrum business started over the past month, and I think that part of it is the move and being a new environment. With the move, it has been difficult getting into routine while getting adjusted to the new house and unpacking everything. Now that he is getting older, I find that when he doesn't have a routine he tends to be crankier than when we have a "structured" day.

So now I am trying to think of ways to make our days more structured. I know the easiest one is to have set meal, snack, and nap times, but I find myself getting lost after that. I'm a very visual person, so I need to see it to get it. On Monday's we have a mommy-and-me class at The Little Gym, and it helps that it is the same thing each week. But after that it tends to be a free for all the rest of the day.

I found this great article at Parents.com about establishing a toddler routine, and it had this sample schedule:

6:45 a.m. Wake up, play in your bed
7:30 a.m. Breakfast
8:00 a.m. Get dressed, brush teeth
8:30 a.m. Read books and play
10:30 a.m. Morning snack
11:00 a.m. Arts and crafts
11:30 a.m. Listen to music
12:00 p.m. Lunch and cleanup
12:30 p.m. Naptime
2:30 p.m. Afternoon snack
3:00 p.m. Outdoor play/walk
5:30 p.m. Dinner
6:00 p.m. Playtime and cleanup
7:00 p.m. Have a bath/brush teeth
7:30 p.m. Pajamas, story time, lullabies
8:15 p.m. Bedtime

Now William has been sleeping until about 9am every morning for the past year or so, and I question if waking him up earlier would help with the tantrums. :/  We'll have to test it out and see what works best. I know that if he enjoys waking up early, I'm going to be one tired mama because I have NEVER been a morning person. Oh the things we do for our babies.

This would be me if we start waking up at 6:45 everyday

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Sorry I've Been Missing in Action

Hey everyone! Sorry I have been missing in action the past few days :( Jeff and I are getting ready to go on our first vacation since the baby was born and I have been running around like a chicken with its head cut off. We're heading to Colorado for our friend's wedding, and the baby is going to be staying with Jeff's parents while we are gone. We're going to be gone a total of 5 nights. This is the first time that I'm not going to be with the baby for an extended period of time, and it is eating me up inside.

The thought of being in a completely different state than William makes me very anxious. I know he is going to be well taken care of with Jeff's parents, but I can't help to be nervous. I think the fact that I stay home with him makes it even worse because I am so used to seeing him all the time. Not seeing his little face in the morning is going to be a bummer :( But Jeff's parents don't get much time with the baby, so it will be nice for them to have this bonding time with him. 

My biggest worry is how William is going to react to me not being there with him. I have already started to notice that he is becoming much clingier as he is getting bigger, and I have a feeling it is because he doesn't go to daycare. Hopefully he has a great time with his Gran and Grandad this weekend.

Despite how much I am going to miss my little man, I am very much looking forward to a romantic weekend with Jeffrey :) We have not had a weekend for the two of us in a very very very long time. I know we are both looking forward to this time to reconnect, especially since he has been gone most of the summer working in Houston.

I was planning on posting the finale to my bed-frame overhaul but like I said, things have been so crazy. I will post as soon as I go and pick up William from my in-laws and bring him home next Tuesday.

We're heading to Mary's Lake Lodge in Estes Park, CO. Hopefully the beauty of this place will distract me from missing the baby.

Friday, June 8, 2012

10 Months Old

Today my little man turned 10 months old! If you would have told me a year and a half ago that this is where I would be today, I would have called you crazy. But now that I'm here, I wouldn't change a single thing about my life. I cannot even put into words the joy William has brought into my life. Jeff and I are so fortunate to have such a healthy and vibrant son. 

Being a mom is no easy task; it has been and will always be my greatest challenge in life.


I love this picture of us :)

Sunday, May 20, 2012

Adventures in Cloth Diapering

We have been going back and fourth with cloth diapering since we brought William home from the hospital. When he was a newborn, we cloth diapered him and it worked out great for a couple of weeks.
     William rocking a green Lil'Joey newborn diaper from Rumparooz. I loved that these had the inner gussets like disposables have. They worked great for his little booty.

     William in a GroVia newborn diaper. These also worked great but I think the Lil'Joeys were my favorite newborn diapers.
    Despite how great the newborn cloth diapers were we ran into a few issues that caused us to stray away from cloth:
    1. At that point in time, I had about 8 newborn sized cloth diapers. They worked great but we just didn't have enough. 
    2. I was way too tired to be doing laundry all the time because we only had 8 newborn sized cloth diapers.
    Needless to say we got into the routine of using disposables (YUCK!) and it stuck for a while. Here and there I would put William in a GroVia shell and insert, but I didn't have a diaper sprayer at the time so it didn't work out too great.

    Now that William has gotten older he has been having TERRIBLE issues with diaper rash. He had a yeast rash about a month ago and recently his poor little butt was so raw that just changing his diaper caused him pain. That was the turning point for me; seeing my poor baby scream because of this terrible rash on his booty literally made me cry.

     Currently he is sound asleep in a Rumparooz pocket diaper with both inserts. Our stash of fluff still isn't fantastic but it is slowly but surely growing. I'll be posting more cloth diapering adventures as we encounter them.

    Saturday, May 19, 2012

    I Love Him

    William is becoming such a big boy. It has only been 9 months and I just cannot believe how fast the time has flown by. He is already crawling and pulling up on everything; it's only a matter of time before he starts walking!

    Right now he is peeking around my computer smiling at me, and it just makes my heart melt. He brings such joy to my life and I cannot even imagine a day without seeing his adorable nearly toothless smile.

    Friday, March 9, 2012

    The Ups and Downs of Self-Soothing

    William is 7 months old now and he is becoming more and more of a handful. Much like a puppy he has an appetite for shoes. He'll see shoes on the floor and commando crawl right over to them and attempt to devour them.

    What is even worse than his desire to chew on shoes, is his recent sleep pattern. He has been sleeping for an hour, and then wakes up shrieking for attention :( At his 6 month appointment the pediatrician said that this was normal, and that we just need to leave him and let him learn to sooth himself. For Jeff this has been no problem, but for me it has been very hard and he knows that I'll cave. He will be crying and then as soon as I walk into the room he stops and looks at me; that is how I know he is faking it.

    Tonight has been one of those nights. I made it about 7 minutes before I went in and checked on him. I rather him know that I am there to sooth him when he needs it than leave him on his own all the time. There are times when self-soothing is necessary but there are also times when it is faster and easier to help them with their soothing process.

    I am interested in seeing how he is going to do on our trip to New Orleans on Sunday. I have a strong feeling that his sleep patterns are going to be way out of whack after an 8 hour car ride. We will see what happens.

    Till next time
    ~Hilary